看到别人的优点你会越来越成功（善于发现他人的优点是美德）

前不久，微博上小火了一个话题：

美国人有多爱夸人？

各种有过一线经历的网友都出来现身说法，英大这才发现，好像真的是这么一回事，

美国人的确是这样一言不合就 You are great!

最基本的路数应该就是夸包、夸鞋子、夸衣服的：

I was checking in at Krabi Airpot and a foreigner came to tell me that my bag looked great! But in fact it was a ¥39 folk-style rope-bag which I bought on Taobao (postage covered).

Kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk, one day I was walking on the street, and someone suddenly step over to tell me my skirt was nice!

Another day I was carrying a bag and got a compliment on it, saying it was cute!

And there was even a time that my glasses got circulating among a group of people with each of them taking selfies wearing it. There must have been about 300 selfies. What can I say?

How much do the American love to compliment people?

My friend was taking a dump in a public toilet and the person in the next cell knocked on the wall to tell her that her shoes looked nice.

That day I was tying my shoes in a squat position, and somebody told me that my briefs looked good.

对于初到美国的人，

有时候都不明白到底怎么反应才好。

更何况，有的美国人还不仅仅满足于夸衣服，

一定要深刻地夸你的长相，

而且夸的技法还五花八门，

My eyelids are single-fold. You won't even see my eyes if I smile. Yet, some Americans told me that my eyes are beautiful? Beautiful like stars???

Hahahahahahahhahahaha, I met 3 black girls in New York and they told me that I was an angel, that woke their ears like a beam of sunshine.

This is real. Once I was in a theme park. When I went to buy cupcakes my hair was totally wet. Yet the salesperson said I was beautiful and asked me if I had a boyfriend.

The last time I went out with a male friend of mine, a black woman lowered her car's window when she passed us and yelled at my friend through the wind "腿！真！好！看！".

真的是，

只有你拿不出手的，没有美国人夸不了的。

仔细一翻微博，发现玄幻的经历还真的不少，

单纯夸脸、夸腿根本满足不了美国人：

I fell down on my face when I was snowboarding. And the Amercian on the cable car above whistled at me and said "I like your snowboard"......

In the first class of my swimming course, I was breathing out underwater. When I got up the teacher complimented me saying "刚刚的泡泡很好看".

说真的，

简直就好像是，不夸人他们就没法说话，

见面了必须先夸点什么才行。

Yeah, they check you out from head to toes once they meet you and find something on you to compliment upon. They have to find something to compliment!

这种行为真的太平凡了，

以至于 Quora 上都出现了一个问题：

“为什么美国人那么喜欢夸陌生人？”

不光中国人觉得奇怪，

很多欧洲人也觉得不可思议。

之前有英国媒体评出过“美国人会干的10件能把英国人逼疯的事”，

里面有2项就是关于他们的“爱。夸。人。”

第1件. 说：“我好喜欢你的口音！”

在我搬来这里之前，我还从没想过我这清晰的伦敦口音会听起来“聪明”或者“可爱”。一开始这种称赞还挺好的，但后来有一个纽约虎妈让我用这种口音跟她2岁的孩子讲话，希望这能传染。这我就开始觉得有点烦了。

第4件. 永无止境的诚挚称赞

如果我哪天过得不好，或者过得很好，或者过得随便怎么样，我都不希望商店里一个我完全不认识的人突然跑来对我大肆称赞。然而在美国，正常人真的会说：“这位女士，你今天真的是个超棒的顾客”，而原因仅仅是我在他们店买了一盒卫生棉条。

对于英国人这些深度“社交恐惧症患者”来说，

碰到这种事真是拔腿就要跑了。

要闹明白这件事情的原因，

或许还是得问问美国人自己，

刚刚上面那个 Quora 问题就已经有美国人回答了，她是这么回答的：

总体来说，美国人真的很健谈。我们觉得闲谈是一种很礼貌、很合适的行为，而谈天气则是一种没啥意思的事情。当你在美国的公共场所时，旁边的人突然找你讲话是一点也不奇怪的。我甚至在等红灯的时候和旁边车的司机开过玩笑呢。而对于这种轻量级的对话来说，表扬别人是一种友好、安全而且愉快的话题。

嗯，

好嘛，既然人家自己觉得开心，那就很好嘛。

退一万步讲，哪天我们要是觉得生活没希望了，还能去美国找自信。

总不能让全世界的人都和屈臣氏的售货员一样，见面就说你皮肤差吧？

不过如果是在国内，那还是算了吧。会被当成神经病的……

看到这么喜爱夸奖别人的美国人，你有什么感觉？？更多奇闻轶事，也可以关注英语教室同名订阅号哦~

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