绝望跟希望哪个可怕 浅谈希望与失望

王怀峰,张三清,绳晓健

希望和失望在哲学的辩证法里与好事变成坏事、坏事变成好是一样的，希望的反方向就是失望。希望值越高、失望值越大。这都是相辅相成的，都是可以转化的。

Hope and disappointment are the same in philosophical dialectics as good things become bad things and bad things become good. The opposite direction of hope is disappointment. The higher the hope value, the greater the disappointment value. These are complementary and can be transformed.

我的爸爸六十年代在涞源工作，每月工资70元，相当于现在万儿八千的，应该说收入不菲。我爸爸还是单位的工会主席，在单位说话还是有分量的。

My father worked in Laiyuan in the 1960s, with a monthly salary of 70 yuan, which is equivalent to about 8000 now. It should be said that the income is not poor. My father is also the chairman of the trade union of the unit, and his words still carry weight in the unit.

曹玉卓,张三清,杨荣涵

那年月，我们家在我们东关村都牛大发了，生活条件全村首屈一指。村里的供销社进来了自行车、缝纫机，谁都买不起，只有我家有钱买。我们家天天有细粮吃，我们家人穿的衣服比别人都好。我们家哥五个姐一个。我大哥才十六七岁、我二哥十四五岁，村里的小姑娘就瞄上他俩，每天到我们家去串门，联络感情。可以说在当时我们家真可谓是门庭若市，很是火爆。

At that time, the living conditions of our family in our village were second to none. When the supply and marketing cooperatives in the village came in, no one could afford to buy bicycles and sewing machines. Only my family had the money to buy them. Our family has fine grain every day, and our clothes are better than others. We have five brothers and one sister. My eldest brother is only 16 or 17 years old, and my second brother is 14 or 15 years old. The little girl in the village targets them and visits our house every day to contact us. It can be said that at that time, our family was really crowded and very popular.

1970年之前，我刚过十岁，也懂事了。当年我在想，有我爸爸这棵大树，以后我一定会有好的出路，事业一定会有好的发展。我们一家所有的希望都寄托在爸爸身上。

Before 1970, I was just over ten years old and was sensible. At that time, I thought that with my father as a big tree, I would have a good future and my career would have a good development. All the hopes of our family are pinned on dad.

然而，天有不测风云，人有旦夕祸福。就在1970年3月26日，我们家突然接到爸爸厂里的电报称：“张凤祥在镇反运动中自杀，请家属速来。”

However, there are unforeseen circumstances in the sky, and people have fortunes and misfortunes. On March 26, 1970, our family suddenly received a telegram from our father's factory saying: "Zhang Fengxiang committed suicide in the anti-corruption movement. Please come quickly."

噩耗传来如五雷轰顶，顿时家里天塌了，我们所有的希望不仅仅成了泡影，因为爸爸是在镇压反革命运动中自杀，是自绝于人民自绝于党，给予开除党籍开除公职的处分。我们瞬间成了五类分子，上学、当工人、参军、入党、入团都不行。只有一条道，就是在广阔的天地干农活，接受改造。

The bad news came like a thunderclap, and suddenly the sky fell at home. All our hopes were not only dashed, because Dad committed suicide in the suppression of the counter revolutionary movement, and he was expelled from the party and expelled from public office. We instantly became five categories of elements. We could not go to school, work as workers, join the army, join the party or join the league. There is only one way, that is, to do farm work in the vast world and accept transformation.

爸爸死了，我们所有的希望都变成了失望。我们家也由门庭若市变成了门可罗雀。过去那一帮帮小姑娘都离我的两个哥哥远远地。我们村有一个爱嚼舌根的老娘们还歇斯底里的给我们家预言：他们家哥五个都得打光棍。

Dad died, all our hopes turned into disappointment. Our family has also changed from a crowded place to a deserted place. In the past, those little girls were far away from my two brothers. There is an old lady in our village who loves to chew her tongue and hysterically predicts to our family that all five of their brothers will be single.

为什么我总爱提我们家过去的事，因为那是我一生的痛，也永远是个结。

Why do I always mention the past of our family, because it is the pain of my life, and it will always be a knot.

上述说了这么多，意图是告诫大家，在希望没有达到而变成了失望时，也别变态，也别翻脸，也别沮丧。Having said so much above, the intention is to warn everyone that when hope fails to reach and turns into disappointment, don't be abnormal, don't turn around, and don't be depressed.

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什么叫忠义。不仅仅是三国时期的刘关张《桃园三结义》那么一拜就是忠义。因为忠义的含义很深，从字面上讲，是指忠心和义气的人。再往引申了说你的德行、人性、你的真诚、你做人做事的风格、你为人处事的风范都可以称之为忠义。你想用人家时，老爹老妈叫得蛮亲热，一旦没达到你的目的，你就翻脸了，你就反目成仇了，你就吹胡子瞪眼了。你这样的做事风格怎么上人敬佩你，你怎么成为忠义文化的传播者，又怎样把忠义文化发扬光大呢？

What is loyalty and righteousness. It is not only Liu Guanzhang's "three bonds of friendship in Taoyuan" in the Three Kingdoms period that one worship is loyalty. Because the meaning of loyalty and righteousness is very deep, literally, it refers to people who are loyal and righteous. Further, your virtue, human nature, your sincerity, your style of doing things, and your style of doing things can be called loyalty. When you want to use someone else, your parents call you very friendly. Once you fail to achieve your goal, you will turn over and become enemies. You will blow your beard and stare. How can people admire you for your work style, how can you become a disseminator of the loyalty culture, and how can you carry forward the loyalty culture?

忠义人要说忠义话，办忠义事，要做一名品味高尚的忠义人。这是我永远的追求。

A loyal and righteous person should speak and do loyal and righteous things, and be a loyal and righteous person with noble taste. This is my eternal pursuit.

如果我的希望没达到，我永远也不会失望。我会一竿子扎到底，我要用蚂蚁啃骨头的精神，我有锲而不舍韧劲，一直要把这件事办成。这才是一位顶天立地的硬汉子。

If my hopes are not met, I will never be disappointed. I will stick to the end with one stick. I will use the spirit of ants gnawing at bones. I have perseverance and will always do this thing. This is an indomitable man.

最后的一句忠告：希望总会有的。期盼希望变成现实。祈福希望别变成失望。这个决定权不在别人，其实就掌握在你手中。

One last piece of advice: there will always be hope. I look forward to it with all my heart hope become reality. Pray that hope will not turn into disappointment. This decision is not in the hands of others, but in your hands.

作者:张三清

翻译:Mary